Writer's Block

Change is inevitable. A person can only change themselves. Allow change to progress in a practical way that comes naturally for yourself, and for others. Everyone fears losing what they are accustomed to. Letting others pressure or force you to change yourself could be setting yourself up for failure and discourage you from exploring the changes and growth you deserve to become a better you.

When we see something that we are not accustomed to, we naturally judge it or want to change it. I am guilty of it. It is how we analyze the circumstances. Is it a need or necessary change? Is it a life-or-death change? Or just a change to be of convenience or pleasure? It is also how we approach the situation or person, or if we should approach it all. Do we come off rude and snarky? Do we come off as too critical or harsh, projecting our own insecurities onto others and creating negative mindsets? Or are we being encouraging and giving out constructive criticism out of care and true concern?        

Overly critical people that are judging people to change really have problems with being self-critical and often really are not judging people as much as it may appear. They have self-doubt and more likely do not trust themselves. Having a lack of confidence and focusing mostly on the dreadful things happening in their life. Consequently, never giving them awareness when things are going right or well. Encouraging people that are giving out constructive criticism are doing it because they care, and not to benefit themselves. They want to help motivate others, give a confidence boost and self-value. Giving hope and aspiring others with love.

We may all have witnessed someone that was going down the wrong path in life. Whether at the local shopping mall or grocery store or even a dear friend or family member. We may have even been to our wits end with them and have snarled about their bad choices and unwillingness to change. We may feel that it is critical that they change for their wellbeing and life and repeatedly drill them to change. Let us not forget, we can only change ourselves, not others. It is our choice how we analyze and approach the person or situation. We can create negative mindsets, or we can give encouragement and hope. Let the correct person take ownership of the change that needs to take place by giving them motivation instead of being so critical of them changing.

“If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”   – Maya Angelou

                                                           © Kara Malvin